Monday, 30 November 2015

First gig

So last night Emily went to her very first music gig.

First one eh? So who would you take your young one to for their first gig? Take That? One Direction? Lil Mix? Adele?

Well I dare say Emily wouldn’t have turned her nose up at any of those. Especially Take That – you want to hear the story about where she wants “Take That” and “Gary Barlow” tattooing…

Perhaps not!!

Yes, this is life with a 23 year old with Down’s syndrome. It’s not dull and it’s never boring!
Now Emily loves music. That’s loves with a capital LOVES LOVES LOVES. She listens to music all the time. She sings Christmas carols in July and rocks out to anything from Pink Floyd to Rihanna, from Billy Joel to Katy Perry. She sings Yellow Submarine with as much gusto as those four lads from Liverpool.

So we were well overdue taking her to see a live music concert. We didn’t plan it out, it just kind of happened. I was looking through something on social media and you know what it’s like when you follow a link to a link and pretty soon you’re nowhere near the place you started. That happened and I happened to see a concert at Sheffield University. Now Emily has talked of going to uni many times and it’s a bit heartbreaking to know that it’s another dream she’s unlikely to realise. So this gave us a chance to take her to university, even for one night, and get her to see some live music at the same time.

So who did we see?

Dillon.

Dylan? Bob Dylan? Wow - amazing!

No. Dillon. 

Cara Dillon.

Who?

Cara Dillon. She’s an Irish folk singer with an awesome band. I’ve got to say that we chose the very best gig to take Emily to. My first gig was Genesis in Roundhay Park Leeds back in ‘87. Since then I’ve been blessed to see some pretty awesome acts including Springsteen. Earlier this year I fulfilled a lifetime desire to see Fleetwood Mac. These were awesome, awesome concerts and will live long in the memory.

But Cara Dillon completely blew me away. Blew us away. The best bit was we weren’t sat in row ZZ893 along with 80,000 strangers, we were on the third row from the stage with about 200 others in an intimate and beautiful venue.

From the very first song we were transfixed. Part way through Cara mentioned that she’d seen earlier in the evening that a young woman called Emily was going to be here and asked if she was. (At this stage I confess I did happen to post a picture of Emily eating in a restaurant pre-concert and tag Cara Dillon in to the tweet stating that it was Emily’s first gig.) Following our customary hands up and pointing down to Emily, Cara dedicated the next song to Emily. That was so lovely. What Cara didn’t know was that this song was THE song – the one and only song – that I had played for Emily in advance so she knew who we were going to see!

I thought that was amazing!

Cara Dillon was quite simply stunning. I have not heard a voice as pure as hers. Ever. The musicianship was exemplary. The songs and the arrangements were off the scale. This was music to warm your heart, to soothe your anxious soul, to snuggle up to in front of a cosy fire on a cold winter’s night in the arms of the one you love and know that all is well in the world.

Every song a new favourite. We were captivated. Spellbound. Speechless. Tears often seeking solace further down our faces.

Now before you start thinking that this is a music review, it's not - though I could be convinced to turn it into one – but I do think it’s important that I tell you about the lessons I’m learning in life.

Life with a child with Down’s syndrome, or other learning disabilities for that matter, is not always easy. Yeah, yeah, you’d worked that one out for yourself I know! But it’s important to make sure you do something for you every now and again to help you stay sane. This is not always easy but it is vital. Go book yourself some tickets to a concert, go to a spa, go do your thing, whatever that may be. But do something to help you feel alive.

You are alive.

It's easy to let the months and years slip by without going off to have some fun. We're fortunate that we can take Emily now and know that she's not just putting up with it, she's actually enjoying it. But it wasn't always like that and it may not be for you. So take up those offers of help (if you get them) and don't feel bad about living.

I've read something recently about our desire in life to be to live, to love, to learn and to leave a legacy. I think it's true. But we can't leave that legacy unless we choose to live. Now when I refer to legacy I'm not talking about money we leave when we die, I'm talking about the difference we make in life and what we choose to pass on to others. Our legacy may be simply bringing up our children the best we can, instilling confidence, teaching them to be kind, showing them how to love others who are not so fortunate.

And I watched Emily last night and I learned from her again the power of appreciation. We met Cara after the show and Emily just told her how amazing she was. We so often hold back from encouraging others but I love how there's no pretense with Emily, what you see is what you get and it's always life affirming.

Live. Love. Learn. Leave a legacy.

Oh…and if you ever get the chance to see Cara Dillon, take it and remember it was me that told you!





Em waiting for the start of the show





Emily with Cara Dillon


3 comments:

  1. Absolutely great story and a wonderful memory created for you as a family and particularly Emily. Thanks for sharing and know my love and prayers. Blessings, Neil #blessingsneil

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